Dear Munni Bai,

I recently had sex with a man at the bathhouse.  I had never met him before and I don’t have any way to reach him now.  I gave him a blowjob and he came in my mouth.  The sex didn’t last very long and there wasn’t much time for talking.  I get tested regularly for HIV but I didn’t get the chance to ask him about his HIV status and if he gets tested.  I am worried that he might have a sexual decease and didn’t tell me.  What should I do?

Ravi, Toronto.

Dear Ravi.

Bathhouses are very popular for precisely this reason – the sex is hot, quick and often very anonymous.  Bathhouse sex can be great fun, just remember to protect yourself when you play.  It is great that you get tested regularly – you are already a head above most guys (no pun intended).  Fortunately, sucking someone off is considered low risk for HIV transmission.  If you are worried about other sexually transmitted infections, you should consider getting yourself tested for STI as well.  Your family doctor will be able to tell you where to get tested, and you can always go to the Hassle Free Clinic as well.  Anonymous sex can be really hot and is part of the bathhouse experience.  But take a moment next time to get to know the other guy a little.  A few questions about testing, and STIs ahead of time could save you a lot of stress worrying about it later. 

XOXO
B. Munni

I have a question that is a little embarrassing, but I hope that you can help me. I sometimes fantasize about having another man pee on me while we are having sex.  It really turns me on and I want to try this for real.  Is this safe.  Is this normal?

Manohar, Hamilton

Let me start of by congratulating you on being so sexually liberated!!  Urinating or being urinated on is a safe and fun way to liven things up in the sex department.  Urine does not transmit HIV and so there is no risk there.  Avoid peeing on areas that have open cuts or wounds.  Urine can transmit other STIs such as Hepatitis B so talk to your doctor or contact your local sexual health clinic about appropriate vaccines.  And my dear, there is nothing to be embarrassed about.  Pee on my friend, pee on!!

XOXO
B. Munni

I am very confused.  I have comfortably identified as gay for most of my life.  I have been an activist for my community and am a prominent figure in the village.  Lately, I have been finding myself being increasingly attracted to a female acquaintance of mine.  I usually just brush this kind of thing of, but I find myself having sexual fantasies as well.  I think she might be into me as well, but Munni – would pursuing something sexual with her make me a bad gay??

Please help me,
Umal, Toronto

Yes, you are a horrible person and should wash your mind out with soap – NOT.  Sweetie, as human beings we have no control over who makes us stiff below the belt.  If you feel that pursing a consensual adult relationship with your lady friend will make you happy – then go for it!!  Sexuality is a fluid thing and you don’t need to answer to anyone but yourself.  Good friends will want you to have great sex – period.  So remember, it doesn’t matter who you are doing, just wrap it before you get down!!

XOXO
B. Munni    

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