Dear Ravi.

Bathhouses are very popular for precisely this reason – the sex is hot, quick and often very anonymous.  Bathhouse sex can be great fun, just remember to protect yourself when you play.  It is great that you get tested regularly – you are already a head above most guys (no pun intended).  Fortunately, sucking someone off is considered low risk for HIV transmission.  If you are worried about other sexually transmitted infections, you should consider getting yourself tested for STI as well.  Your family doctor will be able to tell you where to get tested, and you can always go to the Hassle Free Clinic as well.  Anonymous sex can be really hot and is part of the bathhouse experience.  But take a moment next time to get to know the other guy a little.  A few questions about testing, and STIs ahead of time could save you a lot of stress worrying about it later. 

XOXO
B. Munni

Let me start of by congratulating you on being so sexually liberated!!  Urinating or being urinated on is a safe and fun way to liven things up in the sex department.  Urine does not transmit HIV and so there is no risk there.  Avoid peeing on areas that have open cuts or wounds.  Urine can transmit other STIs such as Hepatitis B so talk to your doctor or contact your local sexual health clinic about appropriate vaccines.  And my dear, there is nothing to be embarrassed about.  Pee on my friend, pee on!!

XOXO
B. Munni

I am very confused.  I have comfortably identified as gay for most of my life.  I have been an activist for my community and am a prominent figure in the village.  Lately, I have been finding myself being increasingly attracted to a female acquaintance of mine.  I usually just brush this kind of thing of, but I find myself having sexual fantasies as well.  I think she might be into me as well, but Munni – would pursuing something sexual with her make me a bad gay??

Please help me,
Umal, Toronto

Yes, you are a horrible person and should wash your mind out with soap – NOT.  Sweetie, as human beings we have no control over who makes us stiff below the belt.  If you feel that pursing a consensual adult relationship with your lady friend will make you happy – then go for it!!  Sexuality is a fluid thing and you don’t need to answer to anyone but yourself.  Good friends will want you to have great sex – period.  So remember, it doesn’t matter who you are doing, just wrap it before you get down!!

XOXO
B. Munni    

So you want to know what Jerking off and what masturbation is? Kya bhaat hai ;-)! So first Jerking off is another way or a slang way of saying "Masturbating". So when someone says they are jerking off, it means they are masturbating.

What is Masturbation? Masturbation in your case means touching or rubbing your penis in a way that feels good and sexual. People usually do this until they ejaculate (cum, paani nikaltah). So you can do this with your hand, or rub it against something. It is a fun and very pleasurable activity. If someone rubs or jerks off your penis and you do the same to them - this is called Mutual masturbation. If your penis is cut (circumcised), remember to use lube so you don't get a sore penis.

I hope that answers your question yaar! Have fun Jerking off!

Mazaa Leh ;)

Munni

Now there are number of different sites you can use. The fastest one is called Craigslist (http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/). Under the 'personals' - you will find a link that says 'men seeking men', and there you will find all postings of men looking for men, and what they are specifically looking for. You can look through the different ads and there are guys posting ALL the time - you will see it getting updated every 5-10 mins .

You can also post yourself - and ask specifically for "Old men and elderly guys" or whatever you are looking for. Here is how you post:

1. In the top right hand corner of the 'men seeking men' postings you will see a link that says 'post'. Click on that
2. When you click on that you will get options - if you are looking for sex mostly you would click on
3. When you click on that then you will get to a page that has some more options. Click on 'post to men seeking men'. Then follow the directions after that

Another website you can go to, that actually tells you were cruising places are: http://www.squirt.org/

Another free website where you also make up a profile but can be used for a variety of different things (friendship, dating, sex..)
: www.adam4adam.com

I hope this helps you out and let me know if it does Happy hunting.
Munni    

Thanks for your email.  You have nothing to worry about. You will be happy to know that jerking off is more than ok for your health.  Jerking off or masturbation is a normal thing and is not bad for you unless you masturbate so much that you make your genital area sore. To avoid your penis getting sore, especially if your penis is cut (circumcised) – you can use lubeJ.   So have fun jerking off – it’s a great pleasurable activity and its fine for your health . 

For sucking cock (giving a blow job, oral sex), when you suck someone’s cock, it’s very low risk for HIV.  It’s only a little bit risky if you get cum in your mouth, but your saliva has enzymes in it that can kill the virus.  Also when the virus is exposed to air – it dies because it can’t live outside the body. You will be happy to know that I haven’t heard any reported cases that got HIV through oral.  To be on the safe side, when you suck someone’s cock – you can put a condom on it.
 
Just remember that there is a chance of you may be getting syphilis from oral – that is if you suck his cock without a condom.  The good news is syphilis is cured very easily  – you just make sure you get tested.  There is a place that people can do anonymous and discreet testing and treatment for you – it’s called Hasslefree clinic...this is their website: http://www.hasslefreeclinic.org/DirectoryMen.php
Have fun

Munni

Thank you so much for your letter, because it is an important thing to talk about!

There are so many guys who are going through the same things as you, many of them feeling they are gay since childhood. I understand how hard it must be living in Karachi and feeling that you have no one to talk to. I can try my best to support you and answer any questions you may have. IF you want we can meet in the Dosti Chatroom - and if you want to ask me any questions we can do it on chat.
I want to let you know that mashallah you are a perfect and good guy - just the way you are. What you are feeling is normal and natural thing . What you need to do, is find out in Pakistan where gay guys meet up online. I'm sure there are groups online on the internet where you can post messages and ads to find other guys who live in Karachi who you can talk to.

I hope this helps, and inshallah everything will be great, just think good thoughts and know that you are not alone and that a lot of guys have the same experience as you.

Munni